So some of you might be wondering how I got on on OK Cupid and to be honest I have a pretty big confession to make. I managed a grand total of 48 hours on OK Cupid before I disabled my account.
It was part of my New Year’s resolution, and I haven’t given up and I think I may well go back to it but I simply couldn’t handle it right there and then, it was definitely too soon for anything. I got frustrated by the number of inane comments that I was getting and didn’t have the inclination or the patience to actually have to go through them all.
I have a very good friend who is pretty aggressively dating via OK Cupid and actually she’s met a couple of really nice guys on there so I’m not saying it doesn’t work, like anything you just need to seriously commit some time to it and it’s only been nearly three months I’m just not in the right place to do that. I need to (to use that awful phrase!) “work on myself” right now. Plus I’ve just started a new job and they haven’t yet recruited to replace my old job yet so work is taking up too much of my time (yes I know, I know to have a better work life balance was one of my plans for this year…!)
I think I might go back to it but just not yet. I also read something recently which definitely made me think, there’s the traditional theory that when you stop looking and stop stressing about meeting people it will just happen. And that’s all well and good, but when all you do is eat, go to work, hang out in the same places and sleep then realistically when, where will you meet someone? I do believe that you have to get out there, take yourself out of your comfort zone and take life as it comes. So I’ll be giving myself a little longer to grieve, I’ll be spending that spare time in the gym (perhaps I’ll meet someone there?) and keeping my fingers crossed that my snowboarding instructor next week is hot (knowing my luck they’ll probs be female but hey ho) and then when I come back from my holiday I’ll see how I feel and start to take it a bit more seriously…
Thanks as always
Miss LIL xx
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